Feeling “better” is NOT the goal

 Yesterday morning, I cried.

Not quiet tears. Not misty-eyed, delicate crying.
Big, uncontrollable, body-shaking sobs.

And the wildest part? These weren’t the tears I cried when I was sick.

These were bigger. Deeper.
Because for the first time in over three years—
I felt so good that my body had no other way to express it.

Tears of joy feel different.
They don’t just fall from your eyes. They erupt from your soul.

I sat there, overwhelmed by a feeling I hadn’t known in years.
Not just better than before. Not just functional.
GOOD-GOOD.

And in that moment, I realized something people don’t talk about enough:
We don’t just cry from pain. We cry when our body remembers what feeling right is supposed to feel like.

It hit me—
Most people have no idea how good they’re supposed to feel.

People tell me all the time, “You look so youthful! You have so much energy!”

But looking “better than most” isn’t good enough
when you feel like you’re falling apart inside.

For years, I carried that contradiction.
On the outside, I looked fine. On the inside, my body was whispering, then screaming, that something was wrong.

And I refused to accept that my best years were behind me.

WHEN MY BODY STARTED FIGHTING BACK

It started when I was living in Bali.
Little things at first; off days, unexplained fatigue, a sense that my body was moving against me instead of with me.

Doctor after doctor told me:
"Oh, it’s just perimenopause. It’s normal at your age."

And these were holistic doctors because I had long given up on conventional medicine’s advice.

But I knew better.

• I knew my genes. My great-grandmother had her last child in her 50s.

• I knew my body. It wasn’t normal for me to feel this way.

• I knew deep down that this was not my final destination.

And I refused to settle for “managing symptoms” when I knew there had to be another way.

WHAT THIS NEWSLETTER IS REALLY ABOUT

This isn’t just about health.
This is about listening to your body when no one else does.

It’s about knowing that better isn’t good enough.
That feeling okay is not the goal, feeling fully alive is.

And if you want that?
You have to feel your way through it.

THE LIE WE’VE BEEN SOLD ABOUT HEALTH

Most people live their entire lives never knowing how good they’re actually supposed to feel.

They think exhaustion is normal.
They think bloating is normal.
They think brain fog, aching joints, and restless sleep are just part of “getting older.”

They don’t question it because no one ever told them to.

Instead, they’re given quick fixes:

• A prescription here.

• A hormone patch there.

• A shrug from a doctor who tells them, “That’s just life.”

But what if I told you that your body wasn’t designed to break down like this?
That we’ve been taught to tolerate dysfunction instead of demand full vitality?

That’s the biggest lie we’ve been sold about health:
That feeling “just okay” is the best we can hope for.

And the worst part?
Most people don’t even realize they’ve been conditioned to accept mediocrity in their own bodies.

PAIN IS INFORMATION. SUFFERING IS MISINTERPRETED PAIN.

Let me say this again, because once you understand it, you’ll never see your body the same way:

Pain is not the enemy.
Pain is information.

Suffering only happens when we don’t understand what the pain is trying to tell us.

• Your body is constantly communicating with you.

• Your symptoms are not random.

• Your exhaustion is not just “life.”

Everything—every migraine, every energy crash, every hormonal imbalance, is a message.

But the modern world teaches us to mute the alarm instead of investigating the fire.

• Got a headache? Take a pill.

• Feeling tired? Grab a coffee.

• Cramping? Here’s some birth control.

We are trained to shut our bodies up instead of asking, “What is this trying to tell me?”

And that?
That’s why so many people suffer unnecessarily.

WESTERN MEDICINE & THE NORMALIZATION OF WOMEN FEELING LIKE SH*T

There’s a reason why, when I went to doctor after doctor, they all told me the same thing:
"Oh, it’s just perimenopause. It’s your age."

Like I was supposed to just accept it.

I remember thinking:
How can something be considered “normal” if it’s causing so many women to feel completely depleted?

And then I learned something that confirmed what my body already knew:

In Eastern medicine, menopause is often called the Western woman’s disease.

Let that sink in.

Because in many cultures outside of the West, menopause is not some devastating, identity-stripping process.
Women don’t experience extreme hot flashes, bone loss, depression, or hormonal crashes at the same rate.

Why?

Because they aren’t bombarded with inflammatory foods, endless stress, environmental toxins, and a culture that disconnects them from their bodies.

Western medicine has normalized dysfunction so much that women don’t even question it anymore.

• You’re tired? “That’s just being a mom.”

• You’re in pain? “That’s just aging.”

• You’re overwhelmed? “That’s just life.”

But what if it’s NOT?
What if it’s not inevitable?
What if your body is simply reacting exactly as it should to an environment that is making it sick?

YOUR BODY IS NOT BROKEN. IT’S RESPONDING.

Think of it this way:

If a plant in your house starts wilting, what do you do?

• Do you give it a painkiller?

• Do you tell it, “Oh, this is just part of aging, little plant. Suck it up.”?

• Or do you adjust the soil, give it more sun, and change how you’re watering it?

Your body is the same.
It is not broken. It is responding.

Responding to stress.
Responding to your environment.
Responding to food, toxins, and signals from your daily life.

And if you know how to listen, you can change the inputs and get a different outcome.

THIS IS WHERE MY JOURNEY BEGAN

This is why, when doctor after doctor told me “It’s just your age”, I refused to believe them.

I knew I wasn’t just “getting older.”
I was getting inflamed.

I was getting disconnected from what my body actually needed.

And that’s when I made a decision:
I wasn’t going to think my way out of this.
I was going to feel my way through it.

Trusting Your Heart to Lead Your Head

That’s the part most people get wrong.

They want a list. A protocol. A step-by-step plan to fix what’s wrong.
They want to outthink their bodies instead of listening to them.

But your body speaks in feeling, not logic.

And the mistake I had been making, the mistake almost everyone makes is that I was trying to solve a feeling problem with a thinking strategy.

THE “SIXTH SENSE” IS REALLY THE FIRST SENSE

People call it intuition.
I call it the original sense. The one that came before all the others.

• Before we had words, we had gut instinct.

• Before we had tools, we had body intelligence.

• Before we learned how to rationalize, we just knew.

That’s the sense I had to tap back into.

Because my body was already telling me exactly what it needed.
I just had to get quiet enough to hear it.

HOW I STOPPED THINKING MY WAY INTO MORE PROBLEMS

Once I understood this, I stopped asking the wrong questions.

• Instead of “What’s the diagnosis?” → I asked, “What is my body telling me?”

• Instead of “How do I fix this?” → I asked, “What does my body need to heal?”

• Instead of “What supplement will work?” → I asked, “How does this make me feel?”

And here’s the key:
I wasn’t just feeling my way through it, I was testing real things.

• I tried different protocols; nutrition shifts, supplements, bio-resonance, energy work.

• But instead of forcing results, I let my body lead the way.

• The difference? I wasn’t chasing solutions I was reading the feedback.

Some things worked. Some didn’t.
But for the first time, I trusted that my body would tell me what it needed.

YOUR BODY KNOWS BEFORE YOUR MIND DOES

• The tension in your stomach before you make a decision? That’s your answer.

• The fatigue that hits every afternoon? That’s your answer.

• The food that leaves you foggy and sluggish? That’s your answer.

You don’t need more research.
You need more trust.

THE 3-YEAR JOURNEY TO FEELING GOOD-GOOD

Healing is never one big breakthrough.
It’s a series of small, imperfect steps, each one getting you closer.

Looking back, my journey happened in three clear phases:

1. Total Disconnect → Chasing answers, ignoring the feedback.

2. The First “Better” → Finding small wins but knowing I wasn’t done.

3. Finally Good-Good → My body gave me the signal I had been waiting for.

PHASE 1: TOTAL DISCONNECT → CHASING ANSWERS, IGNORING THE FEEDBACK

In the beginning, I did what most people do: I looked for the “one right answer.”

I tried:

• Diets. Maybe it was my food. I cut things out, added things in, tracked every bite.

• Supplements. Maybe I was deficient. I tested every “miracle” vitamin under the sun.

• Exercise shifts. Maybe I needed more movement. Or less. Or the “right” kind.

• Holistic protocols. Bio-resonance, acupuncture, energy healing.

• Mindset work. Meditation, breathwork, stress reduction.

I was doing all the right things so why wasn’t I getting better?

Because I was still following external formulas instead of internal feedback.

Every time something didn’t work, I thought:
"Maybe I need to try harder."
"Maybe I just haven’t found the right thing yet."

But the real problem? I wasn’t listening to what my body was actually telling me.

PHASE 2: LAST MONTH → THE FIRST “BETTER”

It took time, but something started shifting.

I stopped chasing a magic fix and started asking a different question:
"What is my body responding to?"

• I noticed what made me feel lighter vs. heavier.

• I noticed what gave me steady energy vs. crashes.

• I noticed what made me feel clear-headed vs. foggy.

And after years of trial and error, last month was the first time I felt "better."

• My energy started stabilizing.

• My sleep improved.

• My body didn’t feel like it was fighting me anymore.

I thought, Maybe this is it. Maybe I finally figured it out.

But here’s the truth that people don’t talk about:
Feeling “better” isn’t the same as feeling GOOD.

I was still managing my health not thriving in it.

PHASE 3: THIS MONTH → FINALLY GOOD-GOOD

Then, something happened.

For the first time in over three years, my body gave me a different kind of signal.

Not just better than before.
Not just less bad.

Fully, completely GOOD.

And I knew it wasn’t just a good day.
It was a full-body knowing that something had fully shifted.

How did I know?

Because I cried.
Big, grateful, soul-deep sobs.

When I was sick, I cried out of frustration.
This time, I cried because I finally remembered what my body was supposed to feel like.

And that’s when I understood—
Most people don’t even realize they’ve been living at half-capacity.

Because you can’t know what fully good feels like
until you finally experience it again.

WHAT FINALLY WORKED?

If you’re wondering what actually worked, here’s the truth:
It wasn’t one thing. It was a sequence.

1. Feeling First → Paying attention to my body’s signals.

2. Testing Second → Trying protocols and seeing how my body responded.

3. Adapting Third → Keeping what worked, dropping what didn’t.

In the end, what led to my breakthrough was a combination of targeted tools:

• DNA-based supplementation → Instead of generic health advice, I used nutrition based on my genetic profile.

• Bio-resonance & energy medicine → Shifting my body's frequency and inflammation levels.

• LifeWave patches → Activating my body's natural regenerative processes.

• Deep nervous system work → Supporting stress recovery at the cellular level.

But the reason these things worked wasn’t because they were magic.
It was because I finally let my body lead.

THE BIGGEST LESSON FROM THESE 3 YEARS

I used to think healing was about fixing something that was broken.
Now I know it’s about clearing the interference so your body can do what it was designed to do.

WHY THIS MATTERS FOR PARENTS, LEADERS, & EVERYONE

For three years, my kids watched me try, test, and figure this out.

They saw me refuse to settle.
They saw me question authority when the answers didn’t feel right.
They saw me listen to my own body more than I listened to the so-called experts.

And without even realizing it, they were learning something bigger than health.

They were learning self-trust.

Because let’s be honest—
Most people are trained out of listening to themselves.

• We teach kids to listen to their teachers instead of their own instincts.

• We teach adults to listen to doctors instead of their own bodies.

• We teach everyone that the “official answer” matters more than what they know to be true inside themselves.

And that?
That’s why so many people end up sick, stuck, and disconnected from their own power.

WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOU

If you take one thing from this, let it be this:

Feeling “better” is not the goal. Feeling fully ALIVE is.
✔ Your body is already talking to you.
✔ Are you finally ready to listen?
 If you don’t feel GOOD-GOOD, then your work isn’t done.

Because if you don’t feel good,
not just better, not just functional, but fully, deeply, vibrantly good—
then your work isn’t done.

THE FINAL CHALLENGE: START LISTENING TODAY

For the next three days, I challenge you to do this:

1️⃣ Before taking a pill, stopping for coffee, or pushing through pain—pause.

• What is your body actually telling you?

2️⃣ Before assuming “this is just the way it is”—challenge that thought.

• Is this actually normal? Or just common?

3️⃣ Before looking for the next expert opinion—ask yourself first.

• What do I already know that I’ve been ignoring?

Because when you start trusting yourself in the small ways,
it changes how you lead, how you parent, and how you show up in every part of life.

And that?
That’s the real legacy we’re here to pass down.

CREATE. TRUST. REPEAT.

We are here for more than survival.
We were designed to feel good. Good-good.

But feeling good requires first feeling everything else.

✅ Stop settling for ‘better.’
✅ Demand your best.

🔥 Final CTA: If this resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it. And if you’ve ever had a moment when your body told you something before your mind caught up—reply and tell me. I read every message.